Am I Normal?
Normal is a strange word, in the way that it almost has a life of its own in our society. Normal changes meaning every single day, whether it’s describing actions or people, it usually refers the the status quo. How does normal get defined? Why are those with mental illness not normal? I personally dislike the word very much, and rarely use it. It sounds at first, very benign, but it carries more weight than is suspected. I’ve always thought, what if we are the ones that are normal, and everyone else is different. Better yet, why does there have to be a different? Why do we insist so much on separating each other into groups?
Something that I don’t think I’ll ever understand, is why people want so desperately to be “normal”. Even though for the majority of my life, I was someone who wanted to be normal. Since I was young, I knew that I was different than other kids. I was even heavily picked on for being different. Turns out that, I didn’t know it at the time, but I was suffering from extreme social anxiety. Things only got more complicated as time went on and I was driven into a deep depression. Yet, that’s neither here nor there.
What drives people to attempt to be normal? It’s something that I ponder very often. Just because something is the most common, or something doesn’t make sense to you, doesn’t mean that it should be included or excluded from being normal. For example, why is homosexuality not normal, I myself and heterosexual, but I do not think that liking the same gender excludes you from being normal. I think that normal is different for everyone. Society shouldn’t be able to define what is and isn’t okay. A person should define for themselves what they consider to be their own normal. For me, normal was being depressed, not a great normal but that’s what it was. Now, I’m hoping that my new normal is going to be treating my depression every single day.
Even if being different ostracizes you from other people, you should be proud that you are unique. You should also be cognizant that you are similar to every other human on the planet. There should be both a pride in individuality, as there is a common agreement that deep down we are all the same. All we want in life is to be accepted for who we are, and if no one else tells you today, I accept you for who you are and you are loved! So don’t try to be normal to societal standards, be your own normal, just make sure that normal means healthy and happy!