Is Blood Thicker Than Water?
As the saying goes, you can’t choose your family. Family is something that I don’t quite understand, and haven’t since I was little. These people that I don’t really know, I’m supposed to be close with because we are tied by blood. I’m not talking about direct, atomic family members, more so the relatives that you see on the holidays. To me, those types of relatives are just strange. I’m not really all that great with social relations to begin with, so acting close with someone that I don’t know is just a little too much for me.
When it comes to family, you only get one, and you don’t get to choose them; or so they say. You’ve probably heard the saying that blood is thicker than water, but I would have to disagree (on the saying’s meaning, not the science of viscosity). I have found people in this life that I value more than my family members. I have a problem with the preconceived notion that I must love the people in my family because I am biologically told to. Now this doesn’t stop me from caring for my mother, siblings, etc, but I have a problem with loving them because I’m “told I should”.
Love in itself is something that I feel like I don’t truly understand. I was born, and told, biologically, chemically to love my parents, and vice versa. I feel like this isn’t real love, but then again I’m not a parent, so I have no idea.
When it comes to family, the truth of the matter is that you really only do get one. Of course there may be people who are closer or more important that your family, but the fact remains, you are only biologically related to a small number of people. I mean unless you subscribe to the belief that all humans on earth originated from roughly 10-20 mating pairs of pre-humans, but that’s a story for another day. Regardless if you love your family or not, you have to play with the cards you’re dealt. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but you cannot count on the chance that someone other than your biological family will become your new family. Nevertheless, love who you want, and be close with who you can, because going through life alone is painful and near impossible.